We know it sucks to plan a wedding affected by the pandemic because we did it, too. We helped each other through some of the stressful, tiresome and uncertain times because we knew we could get creative and pull off something amazing with our circumstances. And then we kept finding more of us. Brides who found the positive in every stressor, and created and executed on actionable solutions out of them. We’re here to help.
The Spicy Bride Project exists because weddings are hard. Enter COVID-19 stage right, and we had an urgency to help ourselves through the struggle. Now it’s our mission to help other spicy brides.
The Spicy Bride Show: Episode 4 – Engagements! Congratulations to all of our new Spicy Brides out there! We adore you, and this episode is dedicated to sharing those joyful memories…and soaking it all in. Founders Amelia and Melissa chat engagements in Episode 4!!
The Spicy Bride Show- Episode 3 “Spice Up Your Wedding Look” The Spicy Bride Show is BACK! Call it a sizzle reel. It’s short, it’s spicy, and we’re hoping it inspires you! Spicy Bride Stylist @imcoachkate manages @rbc_showroom. She shows us a few ways you can customize your basic wedding look with vintage belts, head pieces, interchangeable mask or sunglass chains, and a boho duster.Vintage Pieces sourced by @runwaytothecircus @elysemarievieni Pssst! Spicy Fun Facts: @melissa_pie & @imcoachkate are cousins. @dancepantss & @imcoachkate were dance teammates and currently coach dance teams together. We’re your Co-Founders. Hit us up for a free pandemic wedding style consultation!
The Spicy Bride Show – Episode 2 features Stress Management Coach, Sarah Rosner and her Holiday stress tips for Pandemic Brides. Are you and your S/O prepared to face your families and their potential wedding questions? Listen in for Sarah’s very helpful tips for navigating difficult wedding conversations during the Holidays. Sarah is a Stress Management Coach, Certified Integrative Nutrition Coach, Injury Prevention Specialist, STOTT Pilates and NASM-CPT trainer. You can read all about her offerings on: Live Well Enhance Youlivewellenhanceyou.com or on IG @sarahalyssecoaching – Sarah Alysse.
Meet Team Spicy! Amelia, Katie and Melissa introduce themselves, the project and why Spicy Brides are their mission during this pandemic and the aftershock for the wedding industry. Get in touch with us to share your story today- Hello@TheSpicyBrideProject.com
CONGRATULATIONS you’re getting married!! We’ve put together our top 5 Spicy Tips for newly engaged pandemic brides.
Soak it all in. Something REALLY EXCITING just happened to you! Take time to live in the moment and enjoy it with your fiancé. (Editors Note: My fiancé actually gave me a 2 week moratorium on talking about anything ‘wedding planning’ – it was actually a great excuse when people starting throwing 100 logistics questions at us. We were able to just enjoy the engagement before jumping into full-on wedding mode!)
Write down everything you can remember from your proposal story. Do this as soon as you can and be as thorough as possible! You will want to remember this day!
Make an email address specific to your wedding. Example: SmithWeddingChi2021@gmail.com This makes things easier for planning and cuts down on junk mail pre and post wedding. Once you have contracts signed- it will allow both you and your fiancé to communicate with vendors. A wedding specific email also allows easier communication for RSVPs, week of communication or sending Zoom ceremony links.
Keep an emergency manicure kit with you at all times. Toss a nail file and mini polish in your bag for bling-finger touch ups.
Start collecting email addresses. Digitizing communication from the start will help friends and family stay in the know about your big day and all the events leading up to it! Send out a Google form so people can update contact information themselves!
The Spicy Bride Project is a digital community for pandemic brides. The Spicy Bride Show is a lively virtual catch-up with the amazing people in our lives we know can make a positive impact on yours during this process.
The Spicy Bride Show – Episode 2 features Stress Management Coach, Sarah Rosner and her Holiday stress tips for Pandemic Brides. Sarah is a Stress Management Coach, Certified Integrative Nutrition Coach, Injury Prevention Specialist, STOTT Pilates and NASM-CPT trainer. Click here to watch the episode!
She and Spicy co-founder Amelia discuss different tips and tricks brides can turn to during this crazy time of heightened stress. See below for our recap!
Tips for Brides dealing with stressful conversations over the holidays:
Stay aligned with your finance. Be each other’s support system and communicate openly.
Assign family members a Wedding task. This not only keeps people busy from asking questions you don’t have answers to, it makes people part of the process and crosses things off your checklist! Even something small like collecting photos for your website can make people feel included in your big day.
Communicate about what you know right now. Things are changing every day- even acknowledging that you don’t have things 100% sorted out, (but you are working on it!) helps ease stressful conversations. Send an email if you aren’t seeing people. Commit to communication.
Plan an activity during your holiday get together or virtual party. This can help divert attention off of wedding talk and gives everyone a reminder to focus on the present. Find fun, healthy options for balance and joy!
Be honest. Vulnerability is powerful, tell your family how you really feel. Being honest is the most direct way to communicate and will lead to a positive and productive talk.
Ask your family how THEY are doing. When you start getting 101 wedding questions and start to feel overwhelmed- turn the conversation into a two-way experience. Ask people how they are doing.. the chances are other members of your family have major life stressors they are dealing with too and talking it out could help you both!
Ask for help! Your family may be too timid to offer help but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask. They might not know where to start. Be open with your family and friends and ask for help when you need it. Getting some things off your to-do list will be good for you!
Sarah’s top de-stress tips:
Identify your stressors. Take inventory of your daily activity – What is working? What isn’t?
Breathe. Remember to take a deep breathe. Sit quietly and be present with yourself.
Take a walk. Go on a soul walk. Put your phone away and take in the fresh air and clear your head.
At the end of the day, remember what truly matters. In times when so much uncertainty has come into our lives, embrace it as much as you can and don’t forget to breathe in the love.
Your digital guest list should be taken as seriously as your in-person guest list. Be unapologetic in your decisions. Just because Zoom may have a large guest limit, doesn’t mean you should! Invite with intention and make sure all guests feel welcomed and invited.
2. Have a Secure Timeline
The days leading up to your wedding can have unexpected circumstances (as we all know!) – have your plan and invite timeline set, just like you would an in-person event.
“Our wedding took place in Minneapolis on Saturday May 30th, 2020 – still fairly early in the pandemic and on the heels of civil unrest originating (there). As a result of the commotion in the days leading up to our backyard wedding, we did not put enough thought into the “virtual” guest list. It was not until two days before the ceremony did we start emailing friends and family the Zoom details.” – Daniel + Frankie
3. Assign a Digital Communication Manager
Have a member of your Bridal Party send out the Zoom link and manage RSVPs. The last thing you need to worry about leading up to your wedding is email bounce-backs!
“We relied too heavily on not-tech-savvy members of our family to forward on the details to cousins and family friends. Ultimately, we were happy with our experience but in the days and weeks that followed we slowly learned of people who did not receive the proper communication.” – Daniel + Frankie
Test your event link the night before! Host a digital rehearsal dinner and teach the new-to-Zoom guests how to mute/unmute and navigate any features you’d like captured (e.g. a chat as your digital guest book perhaps). The test event should be the same time length as your ceremony. You don’t want to get cut off by digital time limits before the event ends. Even if a few people join in on your test, you will have the assurance everything is good to go for the big moment!
5.Have a Virtual Host for the Wedding
Assign a trusted friend or cousin to host the virtual ceremony. Have the Host welcome everyone online, give an overview of when to mute/unmute, and how long they can expect to be dialed in. The Host should check camera angles and sound as well. When the couple is announced for the first time- have guests unmute and participate in a group cheer!
6. Make Yourselves a Blockbuster
Give some extra tech love to grandparents or those who could have trouble accessing your livestream by letting them know it will be recorded, as well. Make a plan to upload the file to a shared folder and ask your Host or Communication Manager to share with all guests. If you want to edit or highlight parts of the wedding, you or your tech-savvy friend can dive in post-celebrations.